Things in your life and in your relationship feel like they need to change immediately!
However, I encourage you to slow down your thinking before taking action.
Sometimes our first responses aren’t the best ones… in fact what seems like a good idea in the moment could be hurtful or damaging in the long run.
It’s best to create ground rules after cheating has occurred.
Hopefully, this blog series will aid in that. I don’t want you to regret the actions that you take that you only later regret.
After all, dealing with infidelity is hard enough… navigating through it wisely will be helpful for years to come.
If you missed the first blog post of the series, you can head over here to read it.
The betrayed partner may be wondering: “I want to check phone messages, text messages, and apps for tracking my partner- should I do that?”
The unfaithful has to accept that if they want to heal via rebuilding the relationship, then some major changes need to happen- including being extremely transparent!
To the unfaithful:
To the betrayed:
Remember, you could have somebody watch your partner 24/7 and if your partner wants to be unfaithful they will still find ways. So transparency by itself does not guarantee a relapse-free relationship.
The betrayed spouse may be thinking: “I feel a strong urge to expose the affair. Will this make things worse or better?”
They will likely want to process what you are sharing with someone else. So, please keep this in mind:
Hopefully, after reading the first couple of blog posts in my series, you feel more empowered to make decisions that are based on what is best for your present and future. I’ll continue to explore this topic in my next blog post… so stay tuned!
Are you ready to give therapy a go?
Free free to contact me directly if you have questions or to schedule a brief call to see if I might be able to support you as you journey forward.
Jill
As a marriage and family therapist, I also offer:
Relationship Counseling
Individual Counseling