Affair Recovery Intensive in Indianapolis
Focused couples therapy after infidelity when one hour a week doesn't feel like enough.
providing intensive marriage counseling after cheating
Maybe you just found out.
Maybe you're the one who had the affair and you're terrified you've destroyed your marriage.
Maybe you've talked about what happened for hours, days, or months—and somehow you still end up in exactly the same painful place.
The betrayed partner may be searching for answers, replaying details, questioning what was real, or wondering whether trust will ever be possible again.
The partner who had the affair may be overwhelmed by guilt, shame, fear, or the feeling that nothing they say is ever enough.
This is exactly the kind of situation where a traditional 55-minute therapy hour can feel painfully short.
An Affair Recovery Intensive gives us extended, uninterrupted time to slow everything down, understand what happened, stabilize the crisis, and begin figuring out what comes next.
You do not have to decide today whether your marriage can be saved.
You do not have to know whether forgiveness is possible.
You just need somewhere productive to begin.
You don't have to face this crisis alone!
Healing After Infidelity: When Weekly Couples Therapy May Feel Too Slow After an Affair
After discovering an affair, seven days can feel like an eternity. You may be having hours of painful conversations at home while trying to squeeze the most difficult crisis of your relationship into a 55-minute appointment.
Weekly therapy can be very effective for affair recovery. An intensive is simply another option—particularly when you need more uninterrupted time to stabilize what is happening, work through a specific issue, or establish a clear recovery plan.
* INTENSIVES CAN BE IN-PERSON OR ONLINE *
How Affair Recovery Therapy Works After Infidelity
I don't take sides.
I also don't pretend both partners have the same job.
The betrayed partner needs safety, honesty, information, and room for the enormous emotional impact of what happened.
The partner who had the affair needs to take meaningful accountability without collapsing into shame, defensiveness, or avoidance.
My job is to help both of you understand what healing requires—and to determine whether there is a relationship here that the two of you want to rebuild.
What to Expect From an Affair Recovery Intensive
For the Betrayed Partner
Make sense of what happened and why it’s not your fault
Learn how to manage triggers and intrusive thoughts
Process anger & grief
Start rebuilding safety
Decide what you need to continue
vs.
For the Partner Who Strayed
- Determine what information needs to be shared and how to approach difficult disclosure in a way that supports safety and healing.
- Support your partner’s healing with real accountability
- Understand how the affair happened
Learn to tolerate the betrayed partner’s pain without defensiveness
Develop transparency plan
Prevent relapse and build habits of transparency
Identify what must change so the pattern doesn’t repeat
What Could We Accomplish With More Time?
One-Day Intensive
6 Hours
Best when you need focused help stabilizing the crisis, understanding what is happening between you, and creating a clear plan for what comes next.
Possible areas of focus:
- Understanding betrayal trauma and common reactions after infidelity
- Identifying the cycle the two of you are getting caught in
- Assessing safety, trust, transparency, and boundaries
- Clarifying what each partner needs right now
- Developing a concrete recovery plan
Two-Day Intensive
12 Hours
Gives us more time to move beyond crisis stabilization and begin deeper repair.
In addition to the Day 1 work, we may:
- Work directly with triggers and difficult conversations
- Explore the meaning and context of the affair without blaming the betrayed partner
- Strengthen accountability and empathy
- Develop boundaries and transparency agreements
- Begin rebuilding emotional and relational safety
Three-Day Intensive
18 Hours
Allows us to go deeper into the patterns that contributed to disconnection and begin practicing a different way of relating.
We may also:
- Work more deeply with longstanding relationship patterns
- Address attachment injuries, shame, avoidance, or trauma when relevant
- Practice new communication and repair skills in real time
- Develop a longer-term plan for continued recovery
- Clarify what rebuilding the relationship would actually require from each partner
Not sure how much time you need?
You shouldn’t have to figure that out on your own. During our free 15-minute consultation, I’ll ask a few questions about what has happened, where things stand now, and what you’re hoping to accomplish. From there, I’ll recommend the intensive length that makes the most sense for your situation.
Healing after an affair isn’t just emotional—it’s holistic.
Our intensives integrate:
Emotional Resilience
Regulate emotions, manage triggers, and increase distress tolerance.
Mental Resilience
Reframe negative thoughts, strengthen boundaries, and rewrite your story.
Social Resilience
Build communication skills and create safe support networks.
Who shouldn't sign up for an intensive
We'll give it to you straight...
Still active in an affair — real healing can’t begin until all outside relationships have ended.
In active addiction — recovery work needs to be addressed before tackling affair healing.
Currently suicidal, self-harming, or unsafe — more intensive psychiatric or inpatient care is needed first.
Medically unstable or unable to travel independently — intensives require physical and emotional stamina.
Unwilling to participate fully — both partners need to be open, motivated, and engaged for the process to work.
Seeking a quick fix without ongoing effort — intensives give you momentum, but lasting healing requires continued practice and follow-up.
an affair recovery intensive is not a magic bullet that will solve all your problems.
For my part, I promise to bring my absolute A-game and make it worth your while.
and…
Your willingness and interest in improving your relationship is essential for this work to succeed.
It takes both of you to be open and willing to change.
It also takes a willingness to get comfortable with being uncomfortable.
If one of you has little motivation to work on your relationship in a sincere way and is seriously considering divorce, please schedule a 15-minute consult to see if the affair couples therapy intensive is appropriate for your situation.
FAQ
The intensive therapy retreats range from between one and three days. You can choose how many days you want to attend, and typically we discuss this during the consult call.
- 1-Day – $1800
- 2-Day – $3600
- 3-Day – $5400
Half-Day Sessions
- 3 Hours – $900 (morning or afternoon)
Yes. Many marriages not only survive but become stronger after infidelity. Healing requires honesty, empathy, and the right support. An Affair Recovery Intensive provides the focused time and tools needed to rebuild trust and create a new foundation for your relationship.
Weekly 55-minute sessions often feel too slow after such a major breach. Intensives condense months of therapy into days, giving you immediate relief, momentum, and a clear plan for healing together.
During an intensive, we focus exclusively on your relationship. You’ll explore what led to the affair, share the full story safely, process emotions on both sides, and learn practical tools to rebuild trust, intimacy, and connection. Every session is private and tailored to your needs.
If you and your partner are motivated to heal, stable enough to travel and engage fully, and want to accelerate progress, an intensive can be a perfect fit. It may not be suitable if one partner is in active addiction, is medically or psychiatrically unstable, or is currently unsafe.
Intensives aren’t that common…
and those therapists who offer intensive couples therapy tend to offer retreats with no follow-up support…
…which means you have to start over with a different therapist for any ongoing sessions.
This can really be frustrating because some of that momentum may be lost as you start up again with a new therapist.
With me, as long as you live in Indiana, Florida or Connecticut (where I currently hold active professional licenses), you won’t have to start over with another counselor.
Availability depends on both of our schedules, but I do my best to get you in as soon as possible.
We offer one-day (6 hours), two-day (12 hours), and three-day (18 hours) intensives. Each option provides a concentrated, structured space to do deep healing work.
If weekly therapy hasn’t moved you forward, an intensive is often the breakthrough couples need. The extended time together allows for deeper work that simply can’t happen in short, once-a-week sessions.
In-person intensives are hosted at our office, with recommendations for nearby lodging. Virtual options are also available if travel isn’t possible.
No. Insurance companies will not reimburse more than one hour of psychotherapy a week.
Additionally, insurance companies seldom cover couples counseling, as they usually do not categorize it as “medically necessary.”
When booking an intensive, payment is due in full at the time you book your reservation in order to secure your date(s).