The Alternative To Shaming Labels In my last blog post, I took a deep dive into label shaming. I shared research that indicates cultures that use a label to define a whole person (or group) have greater problems with crime and recidivism. Our culture happens to be a label-shaming culture. Shaming labels are …
What’s Label Shaming & Why Is It Toxic? First, let me say that labeling objects, people, and things is essential to human survival. For example, it is vital to have a word to indicate if something is poisonous. Without the word “poison” we wouldn’t be able to communicate to others whether or not a …
Where Is Shame Held In the Body? Thanks to the work of Brene Brown there has been a national conversation around the concept of shame. In case you haven’t come in contact with Brown’s work, let me give you her definition of shame: Shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that …
Healing After An Affair This is the final post in my series about the topic of infidelity. Over the course of the blog series, I’ve discussed common marriage reconciliation mistakes to avoid after infidelity. To read the first 4 mistakes, head over here. To learn about 2 important ground rules to set, head here. …
Boundaries After Infidelity: What You Need To Consider If an affair has recently come to light- regardless if you are the betrayed or the unfaithful- your world has been turned upside down. You probably can’t concentrate on much of anything… much less make thoughtful decisions that will have long-term consequences…. But healthy boundaries after infidelity …
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Ground Rules After Cheating: What You Need To Know After uncovering the affair, your world may feel like it is spinning out of control. Things in your life and in your relationship feel like they need to change immediately! However, I encourage you to slow down your thinking before taking action. Sometimes our …
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10 Common Marriage Reconciliation Mistakes To Avoid After Infidelity The infidelity has been brought to light… there are so many emotions: grief, anger, sadness, shame, disbelief, and hopelessness. There are questions to be asked and decisions that need to be made. Even if you are the most level-headed person, figuring out how …
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Couples Therapy: What To Do When Your Partner Would Rather Watch Paint Dry You desperately want to go to couples therapy. Your spouse doesn’t. What are you to do? To start, read my blog post series that addresses this very concern! You can find each article on the topic here, here, and here. I’m …
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What If My Partner (or Spouse) Refuses to Go to Counseling? This is the 3rd blog post in a series on how to handle it when your spouse or partner refuses to go to couples counseling. So, what do I say when I get the question: “What if my partner (or spouse) refuses to go …
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Reasons Not To Go To Couples Therapy (& Why They’re Flawed!) A couple of weeks ago, I started a 3-part series on what you might want to do when your partner gives you reasons not to go to couples therapy. Check out the original blog post that started this series. When you have your heart …
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